Bonding Closer at a Distance than Face-to-Face

by Darren
(Iowa City, IA USA)

I met Janell as an undergraduate and asked her out the summer after my sophomore year.

We were only able to go out a few times before I had to go home, because I ran out of money.

While I was home, I called her every other night and really got to know her well.

Because the physical element of our relationship was not there, we were able to focus fully on our personalities and compatibility as a couple.

We talked about likes, dislikes, religion, politics, our childhoods, and our goals and aspirations for the future.

By the end of the fall semester, I felt like our emotional relationship had progressed far more than if when had been physically together.

We felt like we knew each other for years and knew we were compatible.

We have now been married for 3 and a half years.

We have had our difficulties, but generally speaking, it has been smooth sailing.

My advice to people in long distance relationships is to be optimistic about a great opportunity to experience the depth of your significant other's personality.

Ironically, the distance between you can bring you closer than you ever thought possible.